Couples Therapy in Highland Park, Los Angeles, and Throughout CA
Navigating life's transitions amidst past trauma and uncertain futures is challenging on its own. When layered with the unique identities of neurodivergence, queerness, and BIPOC experiences, the path becomes even more intricate.
You may be seeking Couples Therapy in Highland Park, CA for the first time because of many reasons. Maybe you're exploring getting married, starting a family, or entering into a polyamorous relationship for the first time. You're sensitive to and care deeply about your relationships. You want to spot blind spots early to set yourself and your partner(s) up well for your future lives together.
You may also be seeking couples therapy because, after doing a lot of individual work, your relationship is at its last straw. Marked by resignation and a series of failed attempts at getting on the same page, you find yourself lonely. You also find yourself insecure, and highly doubtful about your relationship improving. You or your partner may also identify as neurodivergent. Which means nuances in your wirings present unique ways of communicating and relating. When all of these reasons are in the context of systemic issues such as economic/financial strains, cultural, religious, and intergenerational issues, and possible unresolved past traumas, you're overwhelmed. You may be looking for clarity and a decisive step to help turn things around.
Why Couples Therapy in Highland Park, CA Helps
Couples therapy offers a structured and dedicated space where we can address multilayered pain points experienced in your relationship. Through a self-compassionate lens and personalized interventions, the uniqueness of your relationship can be honored and fine-tuned. Your couples therapist can provide tools and strategies for a more constructive way forward.
You can rebuild trust in yourself and your relationship. By learning and practicing alternate ways of expressing and receiving, Boundary setting can be nuanced and not robotic, and differentiating conflicts from true disconnection doesn't have to be daunting. Exploring the root causes of betrayals can be safe and healing. With sensitivity towards cultural and family of origin differences and each partner's neurodiversity, respect and understanding for each other's beliefs and backgrounds are part of the process. They are also a roadmap for a stronger relationship.
Common reasons for Couples Therapy include:
ADHD, autism, late diagnosed autism in one or both partners
Patterns of communication that lead to avoidance and escalation
Ongoing conflicts and disagreements that are unresolved
Infidelity and other forms of betrayal by one or both partners leading to resentment, lack of trust, and feelings of insecurity in the relationship
Navigating ethical non-monogamy and a polyamorous relationship
Lack of emotional and physical intimacy where one or both partners experience loneliness and disconnection
Other Topics Addressed in Couples Therapy
Interracial couples dealing with cross-cultural value differences
Parenting and family of origin dynamics related to blended families, in-laws, and child-rearing decisions
Financial stress, such as debt, differences in spending habits, and defining security
Life transitions such as relocation, job loss, empty-nesting, health issues, and caring for aging parents
Past trauma and relationship history such as previous divorce, absence of any relationship history, or beliefs formed from past attachment injuries
Relationship enrichment for couples wanting to enhance their relationship, spot blindspots early, improve communication skills, and deepen their connection
We can work with all of your urgency, withdrawal, and differences.
You're looking for a dedicated space to connect with your partner. While also working with yourself in real-time. Our couples therapists are active participants in couple’s work. Intentionally weaving between both partners, we hold the urgency for resolution. All while honoring the parts of the relationship that ask for more time to reveal itself.
Therapy on Fig's Approach to Couples Therapy
Our therapists at Therapy on Fig are either informed or trained in the following couples therapy models and approaches:
IFIO (Intimacy from the Inside Out)
By being self-compassionate first, your couples therapist will guide you in taking "U-turns," where you practice tuning into yourself. This helps in becoming aware of your parts reacting to your partner's emotions, words, and behaviors. By learning how to work with yourself, you can then set yourself up to construct new ways of relating. You can also find new ways to express and resolve conflicts in your relationship. Each partner also gets to witness their partner taking "U-turns" with the therapist. This enables a newfound understanding and perspective of their relationship dynamics.
EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy)
From an attachment-focused lens, your couples therapist will help you identify patterns. These patterns perpetuate disconnection and conflict in your relationship. Couples can restructure their interactions by practicing emotional regulation with more empathy, openness, and responsiveness. You'll be able to create a secure attachment to each other. This helps you experience security in your relationship that stems from repairing attachment injuries and overcoming relationship distress.
Gottman Method Couples Therapy
The Gottman Method is a research-based model. It derives its theory from data discovered within functional and dysfunctional relationships. This integrative model considers cognitive, systemic, existential, emotional, and behavioral perspectives. Significant model tenents include:
Learn how to manage solvable and perpetual conflict. This is done through increased empathy, compromise, and successful repair.
Deepen your friendship and intimacy by learning to respond to your partner's pleas for connection. As well as increasing your awareness of your partner's world.
Enhance shared values and the meaning of your lives. This is done through rituals of connection as a couple and within your family.
Through this approach, your couples therapist will work to deepen your understanding of your partner's inner world. This cultivates a newfound appreciation and respect towards them. You'll identify the unique ways your partner seeks connection and learn to turn towards it. Conflicts are resolved by addressing destructive communication patterns. Persistent stuck points are named and worked on to create new shared meanings and values. Together, you'll find you have a powerful friendship.
See How Couples Therapy in Highland Park, CA Can Help Your Relationship Today!
Ready to strengthen your relationship and deepen your connection with your partner? Couples Therapy in Highland Park, CA can provide a supportive space to explore your feelings, improve communication, and build a stronger foundation for your relationship. As couples therapists at Therapy on Fig, we are dedicated to helping you and your partner navigate challenges, overcome obstacles, and rediscover the joy of being together. We'll work together to identify and address the underlying issues that may be causing strain in your relationship. Through open and honest communication, we'll explore ways to improve your connection, rebuild trust, and create a more fulfilling partnership. Your relationship deserves time and care. Take the first step towards a healthier, happier relationship by following the steps below:
Speak with an experienced couples therapist.
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Other Therapy Services Offered at Therapy on Fig in Highland Park, Los Angeles, and Throughout California
At Therapy on Fig, we offer therapy services that fit each couple's unique needs. In addition to Couples Therapy in Highland Park, we also offer Therapy for Empaths, Trauma Therapy, and Grief and Loss Therapy. We also address related issues such as anxiety, stress management, and relationship issues. Whether you're seeking support for a specific issue or looking to strengthen your relationship overall, our therapists are here to help. Contact us today to learn more about our services and how we can support you on your journey towards a healthier, happier relationship.